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A Sensible Addition to the Library of Any Responsible Adult
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This review is from: The Ultimate To Do List When Your Loved One Dies: Before & After the Funeral (Paperback)


Many of us are approaching the dreaded 'middle-age' threshold in our lives. Among many challenges that this change entails, one is of a particularly unpleasant nature. Our parents and grandparents are starting to leave this mortal coil and we, as their descendants, have to take care of funeral arrangements.


"The Ultimate To Do List When Your Loved One Dies: Before & After the Funeral" by Donna Vincent Roa, is a book that makes dealing with this traumatic situation easier. Book is partly a comprehensive to-do list that covers everything one needs to know about funeral planning and end-of-life options, partly a touching tribute to the author's mother and then a reflection on her own mortality.


Author quite correctly states that many people do not want to think about their own funerals and do not realize the simple fact that this is their last act on earth. Shouldn't the funeral reflect person's beliefs and values, instead of being a standard and dreary affair? But I digress. Useful checklists, forms and links to relevant websites are also included. Recommended. A sensible addition to the library of any responsible adult.

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The Book Helped Me Prepare for a Celebration of Life

Shortly after that show, I wound up using the book to help me with my grandmother's eulogy and I kept saying this is a celebration of her life, just as you had taught me-- that is the only way I got thru it!

Regina DeMeo | DC Family Law Attorney for over 15 years | Host of "Making It Last" on MMCTV | Board Member of Law School for the Public in Maryland

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Fantastic, Well-Written

This is a fantastic, well-written book that everyone should have. It was unbelievably helpful to me when my Dad died. Don't wait until someone you know dies to pick it up. Read it now as part of your own planning.

...Shelley Griewahn | Award Winning Strategist, Brand Developer, Writer & Producer

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Pleased to Have This Book As a Resource

Donna, a dear friend lost her father the other day. I was pleased to have a resource like your book to purchase for her! It's hard to know what to do for folks at a time like this, and this is something tangible. Thank you for writing it!

...Leisl Gromen Lukacs | Account Manager, Web Strategies Internet Solutions 

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Will Prove Helpful

Let's face it. Planning the send off of a loved one is never easy no matter how many times you may do it. Donna Vincent Roa has taken an uncomfortable situation during a difficult time and made it all the more bearable. The Ultimate To Do List When Your Loved One Dies | Before & After the Funeral presents everything in baby steps and will prove helpful to even the most experienced person.

...Rosemary O'Brien | Author of "First Saturday"

Your Gift to Me, A Stranger

This book has allowed me to help others and I want to thank you. I lost the love of my life and you guided me through responsibly. Thanks again. 
...Sharon Norkin

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"Nuts" Not to Invest in a Copy

This book was a tremendous help when my Mother passed away. Although my Mother had most of her funeral arrangements made, I found myself shocked and struggling to complete this heart wrenching task. Stephanie used advise from your book to write Mom's eulogy. Thank you so much for sending us the book for help. This step-by-step book helped guide o every decision from what to do at the hospital to what we needed to do during the weeks and months that followed. I highly suggest you and your loved ones read this book before you are faced with these inevitable decisions. I think people would be "nuts" not to invest in a copy. 

...Lynn Hamilton | Administrator & Educator

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A Must For Every Family!

Received "The Ultimate To Do List" today, and sat down to read it right away. Can't help but think back 10 years ago to when I had to bury a granddaughter, what an absolute blessing this would have been. From the very beginning of her passing in the hospital, to the burial plot we were at a total loss as what to do or expect. Recommend this book as a must have for every family!

...Sondra Guillory Tyler

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The Book is an "Absolute Life Saver"

I bought that book for a friend who lost her Father, and she said it was an absolute life saver. Thank you for putting that great resource into the world!

Leisl Groman Lukacs | Account Manager at Web Strategies Internet Solutions

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Highly Recommended for Anyone Facing Death

My father past in 2009 and if not for the help of aunts and uncles who planned the funeral, I am not sure what I would have done. I never thought about all the time and details it took for my close family members to plan my father’s funeral until I read this book. Now I think about it all the time. I now realize how much work goes into funeral planning. There are so many tasks to complete! Death is inevitable, and if you are someone like me who doesn’t have a clue The Ultimate To Do List When Your Loved One Dies: Before & After the Funeral makes a difficult task simple. It’s a comprehensive checklist of everything you need to do when your loved one dies. Highly recommended for anyone who is facing death and a great comfort gift for friends or family members going through the process.

...Zoe Bright | Marketing Professional

Lifesaver For Those Who Have Not Dealt with the Death of a Loved One

I think your book will be a lifesaver for so many people who have not dealt with the death of a loved one, or who need to make most of the arrangements alone.
...Chris Peters | Edcuator

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Every Family in the US Needs a Copy

Every family, every head of a household, needs a copy of this book. I enjoyed reading the book and realized that there are some things in the book that I never would have thought about. It takes care of everything from the time a person dies until they are buried in the ground. The book made me feel good. It enlightened me. It informed me about what to do. I was moved by it, I tell you for sure. Death is a shock. This book will help to ease the shock. I like the checklist format. It is simple, straightforward. I'll know what to do. This book helped me a lot to see all that is involved in funeral planning. Every family in the US needs a copy...this and the Bible. It's one of a kind.

...Ronnie Vincent | Retired & Father of the Author

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Saved Me a Lot of Headache and Heartache

I never knew how ready could be so easy. With your book, I was able to discuss with my mother her wishes and document them. Not waiting until the last minute helped me to deal with all of my important to do items. This book saved me a lot of headache and heartache. I need to share this book with all my friends, especially those in their 50's dealing with aging parents and thinking about their own funeral readiness.
...Stella Brice | Mom & Free Spirit

Liked it from the Beginning

Congratulations, Donna! I liked it from the beginning.

...Lorelei Harloe | Ascend Communication, LLC

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A Publishers Review of "The Ultimate To Do List When Your Loved One Dies: Before & After the Funeral

Recently, I got a review from a progressive publishing house. I thought it would be useful for you to see it. I think it is an informative and well-written piece and appreciate the frank feedback from this publisher.


This essay provides some details into how the book is structured, its tone, and provides some great insights and future actions for the author to consider. 



Section 1: Title

The title The Ultimate To Do List When Your Loved One Dies suits your book well. It conveys the theme and genre of your book immediately and clearly to authors while also capturing keywords that are likely utilized by men and women in this situation (like “to do”). You might consider reworking the subtitle to expand even more on this keyword advantage. A phrase that mentions the terms “funeral planning,” “money-saving,” or “for beginners” could potentially be listed in many searches. If interested, you might also consider expanding the “Ultimate To Do List” concept into a brand and other books (ie: “The Ultimate To Do List: To Get Into College”) as this type of piece would be useful in many different avenues of life.


Section 2: Structure

You’ve done a great job of structuring The Ultimate To Do List When Your Loved One Dies in a logical and cogent manner. The book is clear and easy to read. Readers aren’t weighed down with gratuitous anecdotes, and the simplified, chronological structure of the piece is refreshing and necessary.


In a future editorial review of the manuscript, be sure to pay close attention to the structure of the individual chapters. Certain sections may be shifted to better accommodate certain needs of the reader. For example, the eulogy chapter may be more logically situated before or within the memorial service chapter since many readers will be going through the book chronologically.


It may also make sense to embed some of the tables currently at the back within the book, or to make mention of them. For instance, it would be helpful to reference the “location of important papers” chart in the first chapter as readers will be collecting and filing their loved one’s documents. Noting possibilities for these types of references throughout the book will allow your readers to take full advantage of your helpful advice and document aides.


Section 3: Style

Your tone throughout The Ultimate To Do List When Your Loved One Dies is direct and straightforward. The no-nonsense approach to funeral planning allows readers to swiftly collect their responsibilities and to-dos. Your authoritative voice is exactly what people are looking for in this situation and it will serve as a comfort throughout the organizational process. Unless you plan to add more text or a narrative structure to the book in the future, your tone is exactly where it should be.


Section 4: Platform/Market

You already have a great initial platform developed from which to market The Ultimate To Do List When Your Loved One Dies. The book website is professional and has many great resources for viewers. The integrated blog also has wealth of useful information; a blog tour or blog swap will be helpful in engaging with other thought leaders in this space and getting your name into these communities online. You might also consider offering individual coaching or consulting services for readers, and focusing on creating workshops based on the book’s content. Both of these activities will allow you to capitalize on direct sales.


As your expertise is in the field of business communications, it would also make sense to leverage this professional knowledge in a book. If you have not already done so, publishing a business communications book will build credibility, visibility, and will allow you to build your brand even more powerfully.


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